Daughters Pt2
If anyone has ever suggested that my daughter(s) have turned out ok, I have always had to admit that I have no idea why. I have at times suggested that it's the luck of the draw (depending on the listener this sometimes doesn't go down too well). I have even wondered at times if my good fortune is related to God not trusting me with a difficult child, knowing I would screw it up.
Reading the article referred to in the previous post, maybe I have more of an inkling. If asked for advice nowadays I would probably suggest that the one important thing with daughters (I can't comment on sons due to lack of experience) is to love them.
Then love them some more.
If difficulties arise love them even more.
Love them for who they are, not what they can become.
Love who they become as they grow, and love that person more than the one they were before.
Tell them you love them, no, even better, show them you love them.
When you have an argument, stand up for your principles.
Then give in.
Show them that your relationship with them is more important than your principles.
Be yourself, not the person you think they want you to be.
Don't tell them what God is like.
Show them what God is like.
Take their advice.
Recognise their talents and let them use them in the home.
If it goes wrong, don't pretend it's all ok, but give them the space to tell you that it's gone wrong (they'll know!).
Then love them, hug them, rub their feet, pick them up from their outings at midnight, be their servant.
Don't expect anything back. Don't ever be resentful because you have expectations.
When you get something back, go over the top in appreciation because you are genuinely over the top appreciative.
Then love them - for ever.
Reading the article referred to in the previous post, maybe I have more of an inkling. If asked for advice nowadays I would probably suggest that the one important thing with daughters (I can't comment on sons due to lack of experience) is to love them.
Then love them some more.
If difficulties arise love them even more.
Love them for who they are, not what they can become.
Love who they become as they grow, and love that person more than the one they were before.
Tell them you love them, no, even better, show them you love them.
When you have an argument, stand up for your principles.
Then give in.
Show them that your relationship with them is more important than your principles.
Be yourself, not the person you think they want you to be.
Don't tell them what God is like.
Show them what God is like.
Take their advice.
Recognise their talents and let them use them in the home.
If it goes wrong, don't pretend it's all ok, but give them the space to tell you that it's gone wrong (they'll know!).
Then love them, hug them, rub their feet, pick them up from their outings at midnight, be their servant.
Don't expect anything back. Don't ever be resentful because you have expectations.
When you get something back, go over the top in appreciation because you are genuinely over the top appreciative.
Then love them - for ever.
posted by Peter and Heather King at 1:54 pm
2 Comments:
there is no mystery as to why your daughters have turned out well in my mind... thank you!
Thanks for the kind sentiment; remember I didn't say I actually did all this, but it's the advice I'd offer.
Another piece of advice:
Don't let your daughters read your blog posts or they might try to take advantage.
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